Confidence the Valuable Treasure

Are you asking yourself, “How do I build confidence? How do I improve my self-esteem?” You are not alone. Young and old ask those same questions. During different seasons of our lives, we face new obstacles. These changes can leave us doubting ourselves, but it doesn’t have to be.

Some years ago, I walked into a department store looking for some solutions to my not-so-beautiful problems. I was sleep-deprived and emotionally exhausted from staying awake with my newborn and 3-year-old. I thought the department store was the right route in making me feel beautiful and confident again. I was a bit delusional walking into the store saying, “Retail therapy helped so many others and maybe it will fix me.”

Please don’t laugh at me. It is scientifically proven that even the young need strength to fight the battles that come with sleepless nights.

I was ready to knock-out low self -esteem, but after a few minutes, I found myself pinned to the ropes. This huge store did not carry a single concealer that matched my sensitive skin. Nothing was a fit for my changing body. I broke down in tears. I felt that I was loosing and my raccoon eyes were a badge of defeat. I was having a “Gone with The Wind” moment. It was so Scarlett O’Hara. That pitiful moment frightened the sales lady into hiding every time she saw me coming.

We Bring Something Unique

I had to calm myself and reflect. First, who told me that I wasn’t beautiful? Where did this image of perfection come from? Did this picture of beauty create unrealistic goals? Far too often, we have allowed Hollywood and culture to define beauty for us. We have allowed the opinions of others to affect the way we see ourselves. In my moment of weakness, I allowed the rejection of others to be the catalyst for rejecting myself.

This taught me something. The first lesson in becoming confident is to accept yourself for who you are. At times I asked myself, “What if I have some real flaws?” Well, confidence isn’t capturing the image of perfection, but it is having personal contentment. Confidence is having peace.

Cosmetics did not solve my problem but adjusting the way I saw my life did. Although I believe in being healthy, the gym did not even solve the problem of low self-esteem. For me, the thing that gives me greater confidence is the ability to make wise choices in a tough situation.

Being Set Free

At one point, I was pinned against the ropes, but I wiggled out and got free. I want this to happen for everyone. Our self-image is never based on what others say about us…but it is based on what we say about ourselves.

What are you breaking free from and what has worked for you?

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